I’m sorry, this post has been brewing under my surface for a while and I really have to speak my truth on something.
The mommy wars are true to a certain extent. I do believe that. I do believe it’s overhyped, but that’s another post.
But here’s the thing: If you feel attacked for some decision you’ve made regarding your child (cosleeping, formula feeding, sleep training-really anything) and then as a way to “combat” the mommy wars you then go and tear down what the OTHER PERSON is doing, then you’re not combating the mommy wars. You’re BEING a combatant in the mommy wars.
I understand how much it sucks to feel like someone is judging you for a choice you’ve made that you genuinely feel is right for your family, but if the way you deal with that is then ripping apart the other side of it? That doesn’t make you the bigger person.
Here are some of the choices I’ve made for my daughter:
Exclusive breast feeding
Babywearing as much as possible
No sleep training
I could be judged for all of these. There is another side to all of these choices-and that side is fine. There’s nothing wrong with formula feeding, or being a working mom, or sleep training, or purees, or cloth diapers, or any of it. Nothing at all. My choices are not better than anyone else’s (except the people genuinely abusing their kids. My choices ARE better than those peoples). They are just better for MY family. And that’s okay. My family is not your family. We are allowed to be different.
So don’t be that person. That’s all I’m saying, because it doesn’t do you or anyone else any favors.