Sometimes, you have to just do what works, even if it’s not what you planned. I think every single person in this community can understand that concept.
Baby Whisperer was working-until it wasn’t. We had a few hellish nights where things appeared to be getting worse. Every baby is unique, and my spirited child was MORE stimulated by Pick Up/Put Down, and by stimulated I mean miserable and horrified. It was like putting her through a trauma every time I put her down, and a glorious relief every time I picked her up. It just wasn’t working for us anymore.
So last night in a fit of frustration I threw my hands to the heavens and swaddled the kid up. Then I got her comforted and put her in her pack n play. I was exhausted, so I scooted it over next to the bed so I could lay down but still reach her. Almost instantly she was at ease. Apparently having me stand over her was disturbing to her, probably because she kept expecting me to pick her up instead of just put my hand on her chest and try to comfort her.
It took 45 minutes last night of me laying next to her and her cooing, playing, and wiggling in her bed. Then I put a pacifier in, she took it and fell asleep pretty quickly.
AND SLEPT FOR SIX. BLESSED. HOURS.
This kid has never been a pacifier fan, and now all of a sudden she wants one. I was reticent about it because I was looking forward to not having to worry about weaning from a paci, but I’m letting go of that. LETTING IT GO.
Tonight was Chief’s night, so after bath I nursed her, read her two stories, and nursed a little bit more just to be sure she was really full. Then Chief changed her diaper again because we got a surprise poop, and he took her away to be swaddled and put to bed.
No crying, and she was asleep in 16 minutes. Did I mention no crying? And she wasn’t held to sleep?
Two weeks or so ago she acted like she was done with the swaddle, but for whatever reason she is not. And that’s fine. Its another thing I’ve made my peace with. We’re doing what works, and this works. And tonight Chief did most of bedtime by himself. If we could get her to take a bottle I wouldn’t even have to be in the house for bedtime.
And as someone who has not left her baby’s side for six and a half months except for a few hours here or there to run to the law firm for work, do you know how magical that is? I love my baby. More than I can ever, ever express. But this tiny bit of freedom is just goddamn amazing. And we will all be better for it, because now she’s building a stronger relationship with her dad, she’s learning how to sleep on her own, and I’m getting just a little bit of relief.
Sweet, sweet relief.