Charlie had her 9 month appointment on Wednesday, which was the day she turned nine months. Works out well.
She’s small for her age but the doc wasn’t concerned about that. She’s 16 lbs and 27 inches long with a head diameter of 17 inches.
The things she’s doing “right” are:
Shaking toys and rattles
Responding to her name
Making eye contact
The Things she’s not doing:
Cruising around a table while holding onto it (he said this one isn’t a big deal until 12 months)
Saying “mama” or “dada”
Pulling up all the way
Getting into a seated position from lying down on her own
Playing pattycake (when he asked this one I said “No, but then again i didn’t know we were supposed to be doing that…)
He said none of it was making him lose sleep at night, but that if she hadn’t caught by 12 months he would be recommending occupational therapy. He also said I was probably doing too much for her which is holding her back, and acted like she should be sleeping through the night by now as well. I told him we had sleep trained and that she had gone from who knows how many night wakings (seriously, I was cosleeping with my boob out, who fucking knows) to 2-3 a night with a big stretch at the beginning. He said “well, I guess you can pick your battles, but you need to be letting her figure things out on her own.”
Then he said I should be reading to her more. and I almost decked him. Because the kid gets three books a day, one before each nap and one before bedtime, SOMETIMES two if they’re short.
So what I want to know is, are we really that behind? She’s nine months old. All the moms in my birth club were pretty shocked and said that there kids weren’t doing hardly any of this and their doctors hadn’t brought it up. I like my doctor for a lot of reasons. He’s an osteopath so he isn’t always trying to push drugs on us. He’s really into total health and isn’t going to let something like a back problem go without letting you know you should lose weight-he keeps you accountable for your health, and I think he’s fair and balanced.
But I also feel like he’s a bit old school about some stuff and I’m wondering where other’s stand on this. In the two days since her appointment she has started just baaaaarely crawling (like, she can move herself forward a few inches and then crashes to her tummy) and she can now get herself sitting up on her own. We think she’s waved a few times but it’s hard to tell because they’re so twitchy, and when she’s crying she goes “MMMMMM-MA. MMMMMM-MA” which we both feel certain is the beginnings of “momma.”
So do I need to be worried?