Wanna be mad with me?
If not, seriously don’t read this. If you’re not in that place-just don’t. This is about a selfish fertile, and I’m not going to be kind.
Do you guys remember this?
Read that before you read on. This is a story about the My-Uterus-Isn’t-Broken-Girl.
She has a name that begins with A, that I will shield from the internet because I’m nice, so let’s pretend it’s Annie. I call her Bitch-Face-Annie in my head. Henceforth referred to as BFA.
Probably about halfway through my pregnancy she announced that she was pregnant with her third because FERTILES, amiright? At the time this annoyed me because I don’t like her, but I didn’t feel anymore rage towards her than I do towards anyone else I don’t like with a well functioning reproductive system. Then stuff started to come out-her husband was unemployed when they were trying to get pregnant. That’s not entirely damning. That happens to good people all the time. They lose their jobs-they find new ones. Okay. THEN the big shit hits the fan-her husband is a drug addict. Not pot-like big stuff. Has multiple drug convictions that she knew about and was actively using and could no longer keep a job. They had no money to pay their rent. SHE KNEW ALL OF THIS WHILE TRYING TO GET PREGNANT WITH A THIRD CHILD WITH HIM.
Look, as a mother, I really really try not to judge other mothers. However, when you are doing something that is endangering your child, I’m going to judge you. And having a third child you cannot afford because your husband is a drug addict who cannot hold down a job, AND has gotten you evicted from your house, AND you’re getting sued for over 10K from the rental company (not rumor-all public records)? I’m going to judge you for that. How terribly, terribly sad for your children. Seriously I was so bothered when I found it all out I couldn’t sleep that night.
So anyway, they’re getting evicted, she’s pregnant, they needed a place to go. This was, again, last year sometime. My friend S’s family owns a bunch of rentals and BFA begged S’s brother to rent something to them. They had nothing she could afford but because of the history they took pity on her and lowered the rent on something down to her price range and ignored allllll of the bad stuff that was screaming DO NOT RENT to this person.
I guess it was going okay for a while. The dad has never found work and is strung out as all hell, but she was working at night as a secretary for the hospital. i would imagine they were also on public assistance, so they were getting by, and I don’t judge people for using public assistance. NO. That’s not what this is about. What this is about is that at some point things started to catch up and they could no longer scrape by and get the rent together. They managed until my friend S’s brother went overseas to Iraq. At that point his dad started managing all the properties on his own, and guess what? They stopped paying. Three months of rent totaling over 2K. The family was pretty nice to them about it-said they could work it out, they could let it slide, just as long as they started paying again.
Well, S’s dad went over to the property the other day and they had abandoned it. They won’t answer calls, messages, emails, texts. And apparently they had been planning this for a while because BFA had set up a filter on fb that hides all of her posts for S for the last month or so.
Here’s where I’m at with this. I have so much sympathy for people, even people I don’t like….to a point. To a goddamn point. She had so. many. opportunities to do better. To try to make things right. To not screw over someone who has been a lifelong friend to her-a family that was doing her a MASSIVE favor. And her poor damn kids. On FB she’s all obsessed with how she’s homeschooling her oldest daughter and that’s fine, but I’m also like…..maybe you should worry more about your housing situation? They also had a gofundme going a while back to help them pay their rent that people contributed a chunk of money to…yeah, S’s family never saw any of that. Not one dime. And poor S’s brother is having to deal with all of this while leading a group in Iraq. Just none of it is okay. At all, even a little bit. The dad doesn’t know how to properly evict and pursue this issue (which is really more the fault of the brother for not preparing him before he left, but PROBABLY he didn’t expect to need to do that). I could rant about this forever, but suffice it to say, how come people like that can have all the children they want?!
I actually had two stories, but then second one is just two exhausting to tell after this one. Maybe later. Gnash your teeth on this one first.